Creating a Sun Delay
by Rachel Macy Stafford
I remember the first time I started collecting hellos.
Instead of staring at the screen of my phone or reviewing my to-do list that day, I simply watched for my child to exit the school doors. When she did, I had to fight back the tears. I never knew that the minute she emerges from that building, her eyes search for me I never knew that when she spots me, her eyes melt into tiny slivers of joy that seem to merge with the corners of her mouth. I never knew that she vigorously waves her tiny hand as if she is waving to Mickey Mouse himself. I never knew how her backpack happily bounces up and down as if she is walking on air to meet me. I never knew someone could be this happy simply to see me.
But now I do. Thank you, God, now I do. That was the day I discovered nothing on a screen or a list could compare to the sight of my beloved’s face as she comes towards me.
That was the day I started collecting hellos.
Someday this sacred collection will soften the pain of the inevitable good-byes.
When I greet my loved ones with happiness, excitement, interest, and love, the message I am sending is: You are loved. Today I’ve decided that showing my family I’m happy to see them is important to me. I vow to let go of my distractions long enough to create a sun delay, which means: no matter what I am in the middle of doing, no matter how inconvenient it is to look up, no matter how busy I think I am, when my loved ones walk into the room or return after a separation, my world is going to stop for a moment so love from me can shine in their eyes and hearts.
Excerpted with permission from Only Love Today by Rachel Macy Stafford, copyright Rachel Macy Stafford.