Date Night Idees
Weeklikse ‘DATE NIGHT’ idees.
Die idees is uit Ted Cunningham se boek Fun Loving You: Enjoying Your Marriage in the Midst of the Grind.
Arise, my darling, my beautiful one, come with me.
—Song of Songs 2:10
PLAYDATE: Enjoying time together without serious discussion
1. Create a love playlist: You remember love tapes? You would record your favorite music on a cassette tape and give it to the one you were dating. Download your favorite love songs, and create a playlist called “Love playlist.” It needs to have at least four or five songs. Don’t stop with one playlist. Create a list from each decade. You can date the playlists or even create new playlists for special occasions. After you create the playlist, take a drive. Enjoy the sights of your town with the windows rolled
2. Plan a picnic. Fill a basket or cooler with bread, goodies, cheese, fruit, drinks, etc. Grab a blanket and head to a park or lake.
3. Go to a coffee shop and take your own board games. Play checkers, cards, etc., while having coffee or tea together.
4. Visit a zoo, aquarium, museum, or botanical garden.
5. Choose a favorite activity from your junior or senior high days. Bowling, roller-skating, miniature golf, go-karts, etc. Also, trampoline places Rush Indoor Trampoline Park is located in Claremont, Cape Town. www.rushsa.co.za/
6. Cook a multicourse meal. Play with various recipes, and serve one course at a time. A great way to have fun with this is to prepare a five-course meal together with drinks. This will be a long meal. Make it as formal as you’d like or as informal and goofy as you’d like.
7. Go fishing on the weekend. This is a great date whether you catch fish or not.
8. To add some random fun to your evening, go to a karaoke bar, and sing your favorite songs as loud as you can with people you’ve never met before.
9. Go on a picture date. Find random sites and take pictures of each other. To add more fun to it, make a themearound your pictures. For instance, go out as a tourist. Or go out together as if you were living in the 1950s, dress the part, hit a diner, and take fun pictures. You could also go out wearing camouflage.
10. Decide on a new hobby or activity together and begin practicing. For instance, you may decide you’re going to run a 10k or a marathon together. Start running together to train for it. Perhaps you’re wanting to learn an instrument together. Sign up, and begin taking lessons and practicing together.
LAUGHDATE: Learning to lighten up and not take ourselves too seriously
1. Have a YouTube date. Spend an hour on YouTube watching great videos that will make you laugh. Here are a few to get you started:
2. What’s your favorite comedy of all time? Rent that movie for old times’ sake, and stay home together and laugh.
3. Book tickets to see a comedian coming to the area.
4. Find an activity neither one of you are that good at and attempt it together. For instance, you could go roller-skating, ice-skating, kayaking, tandem biking, etc.
5. Take out the old yearbooks or annuals. Go through and laugh at yourself. Your dress, hairstyle, etc. Categorize and rank them. Ugliest hairdo. Most gaudy dress.
6. Sign up for a dance lesson. The dance instructor determines the level of fun. If he or she is overly strict and serious, that gives less seasoned dancers something to laugh about. This date will force you out of your comfort zone.
7. Spend one hour at an arcade. After you get over your anger at the price of games these days, try some of the physical games (dancing, basketball shooting, strength games). You’ll get a laugh out of the competitive spirit that rises up in you.
DREAMDATE: Picturing a special future for your marriage and family
1. Walk down memory lane. Bust open those yearbooks and wedding albums. Discuss old friends, classes, favorite teachers, sports, and clothing. And don’t forget to admire those hairstyles. What do you miss about those days? What do you miss least? If you could go back, what would you change?
2. Have a coronation date. Honor each other with the royal treatment. What does your spouse enjoy most? A back rub? Uninterrupted listening? A favorite movie? A favorite meal? Your answer to that question determines what you do on your date. Note: this date is actually two in one since each of you gets a turn receiving the royal treatment.
3. Plan an annual abandon. Even though it may be years away, plan that trip you’ve always dreamed of taking. Magazines and travel websites will help with the planning. Once your budget is set, put a plan in place together to start saving the money to take your dream trip.
4. Take a day and go house hunting. Look around at various homes, dream together, and talk about how you would decorate or renovate.
5. Go to a coffee shop together after dinner, and on a piece of paper, begin writing down the achievable dreams you want to begin pursuing for your marriage and family. After you have come up with an agreed-upon list of dreams, start putting on paper a plan to begin living out those dreams together.
6. Have dinner in Italy. Or any of your favorite cities or countries. Transport the dream location to your own home. Set up decor to match the locale, dress as if you were in that city or country, and cook the native cuisine.
7. If there is a hobby or activity you have always wanted to try, use this date night to give it a whirl. If you have never been bowling and would like to learn, give it a try. If it’s building large puzzles, sit together and assemble one. Perhaps you have never crocheted before but always wanted to learn how. Research it and get the materials together to do it.
8. Set up a horseback-riding adventure together, and have a picnic along your route.
9. What is the most inspiring movie you have ever watched? A movie that makes you dream and come alive? Rent this movie, and watch it together early in the evening. When you’re finished with the movie, sit down together, and use the passion and energy you have from watching the movie to dream together about your future as a couple and family.
10. Sit down together, and make a list of everything you would love to do inside and outside your home to make it more of what you want. Begin researching building-supply stores to find out the costs of each item. You can also search blogs to find cheap ways to redecorate and refurnish your home. Research these blogs together, and use a date night to slowly begin a home makeover.
ADVENTUREDATE: Trying something new and taking risks
1. Do a 5k run, walk, or hike. You can break it up into 1km increments, so long as you get in the 5k. This is designed to get you off the couch and get the blood flowing.
2. Get out of your comfort zones, and enjoy the adventure of serving alongside each other. As a couple, volunteer in your community. Serve together at church, sign up for a short-term mission trip, or volunteer at a local shelter.
3. Go to a professional sporting event together. If you know nothing about the sport or the event, even better. Stretch yourself for the adventure, and try to find the lure behind the event.
4. Make a list of the five most popular local attractions in your area you have yet to visit. Then rank them in order of popularity or personal interest, and try to go to as many as time and money afford you. Make your list and ranking separate from your spouse’s; then compare lists.
5. Go out on a date without spending more than R150.
6. Save money and live your local dream date night. What restaurant would you most like to go to? What activity, show, or event would you like to attend yet never allow yourself to spend the money on? Pamper yourselves.
7. Choose a type of food you have never tried (e.g., Thai, Japanese, Indian, etc.), and go out to that restaurant together. Be risky with your choice on the menu. Don’t be afraid to try something new.Remember, it’s about adventure.
8. Is there an activity, sport, or hobby neither one of you are that good at but would love to try together? Step out of your comfort zones and give it a try. You could go shooting at a gun range, ice-skating, kayaking, dancing, etc. Do something different than what you did on your laugh date.
9. Take a night and rearrange the furniture in your house. Go around and try new concepts and ideas for seeing your home differently. Leave it this way for a few weeks. If you don’t like it, you can always change it back.
10. Dig out old family pictures and videos. Go through each of them, and reminisce on old adventures you had together or as a family. Use it as a catalyst to begin talking about and planning planning your next big adventure together.
UItreksel uit die boek Fun Loving You: Enjoying Your Marriage in the Midst of the Grind deur Ted Cunningham,